This is a response to a post I wrote in December called I’m an Actor. For a long time, this was a post I was really proud of, but looking back I don’t really agree with what I was saying. At the time, I was just beginning to figure out the concept of gender and went through a phase of not believing gender existed. I began the post by saying I didn’t want to be defined by my gender and now I think this sounds like I wasn’t proud of being a woman. I thought that women were at a disadvantage in the world and therefore I didn’t want to be associated with being a young woman and I wanted to be treated the same way as a man, thus the idea of being an actor.
I now think gender matters as much as you want it to matter. For some people they don’t care what gender people think they are, but for some people their gender is incredibly important to them and a huge part of their internal being. My opinion should never dictate how you see yourself or the importance you hold to your gender and by saying gender is unimportant, I feel like I was being very insensitive.
I used the example of ‘actor’ and ‘actress’ because I didn’t think gender was relevant in the workplace and it did not impact the talent of the actor/actress so there was no need to distinguish gender in Art. I thought that by saying I was an ‘actress’ people would judge me and therefore I didn’t want to be recognized as an actress and thus a woman. But, despite the oppression, I think I should still call myself an actress, because I am proud of being a woman. By demonizing the term ‘actress’ I am only adding to the oppression women are already facing and I am not recognizing the incredible work of many actresses, and women in general, over the course of history.
I don’t hate everything I said in that post. My heart was in the right place and I made some valid points, I was totally right in thinking we should SCREW STEREOTYPES. Gender is what you want it to be and it can mean as much or as little to you as you like. I will not be defined as such by my gender, no one should be defined by anything, but I have personally decided to celebrate it and be proud of my gender, because despite all the crap society gives women, we’ve done some pretty awesome shit.
Thank you so much for reading,
(Read my collab post with Ariana (Raven wings) here about immigration. It’s just been uploaded and we would both appreciate it if you gave it some love)